• "Granthotsav", 2018.

    काही दिवसांपूर्वी, एका ग्रंथोत्सवाच्या निमित्ताने, भाषणाची संधी मिळाली. ग्रंथांचं महत्त्व तर अगाध असच आहे. त्यावेळी मी माझ्याअनुभवातून काय शिकले त्याबद्दल केलेले कथन ह्या ब्लॉगमध्ये देत आहे. आवडल्यास जरूर कंमेंट द्या. किंवा शेअर करा. 

     

    प्रकाशाशिवाय अंधार कसा जाणार?

    औषधाशिवाय रोग कसा हटणार?

    प्रेमाशिवाय कलह कसे मिटणार ?

    आणि ग्रंथांशिवाय ज्ञान कसे मिळणार?

     

    ग्रंथांबद्द्लच जर सांगायचं झालं तर मी माझ्या मुलांना वाचनाची सवय लागावी म्हणून खूप मेहनत घेतली आहे आणि मला त्याचे चांगले फळ मिळाले आहे. माझा मुलगा ४ वर्षांचा असताना आणि मुलगी ६.५ वर्षांची असताना,  मी त्यांना त्यांच्या शाळे नंतर पुण्याला एका "ब्रिटिश लायब्ररीत"  नेत  असे आणि तेथे खूप छान वातावरण असायचं. लहान मुलांची छोटी छोटी पुस्तक, मोठ्या मोठ्या चित्रांची आणि मोठ्या मोठ्या अक्षरांची तिथे मस्त मांडून ठेवलेली असत, विविध सॉफ्ट टॉयज च्या राज्यात कुठेहि कोणत्याही मोठ्या सॉफ्ट टॉयवर अथवा बीन बॅग वर  बसून ही मुले वाचत असत आणि ती वाचताना कुठे अडखळली तर सांगण्यासाठी "वाचक मार्गदर्शक" उपलब्ध असत. त्यामुळे त्या छोट्या वयातच त्यांना खूप छान वाचता येत असे. आजही दोघेही  अवीड (Avid) रीडर आहे. 

     

    परंतु सांगायचं कारण असं  कि, पुढे २०११/१२ मध्ये मुंबई ला आल्यानंतर, नरिमन पॉईंट ला देखील एक ब्रिटिश लायब्ररी होती, खूप छान होती. अशीच होती जशी पुण्याला होती. खूप आनंद झाला होता, कि आता आमची वाचन चळवळ चालू राहील म्हणून. पण तो आनंद खूप दिवस टिकला नाही.  दोन  वर्षानंतर मला एक पत्र आलं लायब्ररीतुन कि आता लायब्ररी बंद होत असून यापुढे सगळी पुस्तके "इ-वाचना" साठी उपलब्ध असतील. त्यापुढील तीन दिवस मला स्वतःला काही सुचत नव्हतं. कि आता लायब्ररीत जाता येणार नाही, आता, तो नवीन पुस्तकांचा वास नाही, कॉफी पित पित वाचण्याचं सुख नाही, मुख्य म्हणजे मी लायब्ररीत बसून पुस्तकांची यादी बनवत असे, आता मला नवीन पुस्तक घेण्यासाठी संदर्भ मिळणार नाहीत, तुम्ही आला नाहीत पुस्तक घ्यायला म्हणून फोन कॉल येणार नाही, खूप चुकल्या चुकल्या सारखं वाटत होत.

     

    पण काही दिवसांनीच मला एक संधी चालून आली, एक संशोधन करण्याची, ते संशोधन होते माइंडफुलनेस (सजगता) आणि भावनिक बुद्धिमत्ता, यावर मला लिहायचे होते. ती एक ऑनलाईन परिषद होती,  मी लिहिलं  आणि ते माझे लिखाण नंतर, इ -बुक म्हणून प्रसिद्ध करण्यात आले, ते

    इ -बुक आजही स्मॅश वर्ड्स वर उपलब्ध आहे. त्याच नाव आहे, "द माइंडफूल हार्ट".

     

    सांगण्याचा मुद्दा असा आहे कि मला जो अनुभव आला पुस्तक वाचनाचा लायब्ररीला भेट देऊन पुस्तक वाचण्याचा आणि नंतर एक्दम डिजिटली पुस्तक वाचनाचा आणि त्यातुन माझंच एक इ -पुस्तक बनण्याचा. तो सगळा अनुभव खूप मजेशीर होता. तो अनुभव म्हणजे माझ्या साठी एक अभ्यास होता. 

     

    दोन्ही प्रकारचे अनुभव मला त्यामुळे आले. आणि दोन्हीचे महत्त्व आणि तोटे समजले. 

    आणि मी जे त्यातून शिकले ते मी आज तुम्हाला सांगण्याचा प्रयत्न करणार आहे.

    • पहिली महत्त्वाची गोष्ट मी अशी शिकले कि, किशोरावस्थे च्या पुढील वयाच्या व्यक्तींना ज्या काही प्रमाणात का होईना पण संगणकाशी नातं ठेऊन आहेत त्यांच्या साठी इ -वाचन अवघड नाही. 
    • इ- वाचनामुळे वाचता वाचता लागणारे संदर्भीय वाचनहि त्या सोबतच सहज करता येतात. 
    • आता नवीन ऍप्लिकेशन्स मुळे आपण तडक पुस्तक तयार करु शकतो. 
    • खूप साऱ्या पुस्तकांमधील उतारे आपण एका फाईल मध्ये जमा करून ठेऊ शकतो. 
    • एका छोट्याशा चिप वर  १५/२० हजार पेजेस आपण सहज ठेऊ शकतो. एका ठिकाणाहून दुसऱ्या ठिकाणी नेऊ शकतो. 
    • पुस्तकांवरची धूळ नाही कि, शिंका नाहीत कि, कोणत्याही प्रकारचे आजार नाहीत. 
    • तयार झालेली माहिती वेळोवेळी कितीही वेळा पाठवता येते. त्यातच आपण ती दुरुस्तहि करू शकतो. आणि.
    • विशेष म्हणजे ती माहिती आपण काही शेकडो नाही, हजारो नाही तर, मिलिअन्स ऑफ मिलिअन्स लोकांना, लाखो लोकांना एका वेळी पाठवू शकतो, विविध भाषांमध्ये पाठवू शकतो आणि तेही निमिषार्धात, काही सेकंदात पाठवू शकतो. 
    • किंडल सारखे डिव्हाईस तर पुस्तकाचा पूर्ण फील देणारे आहेत. आपण आपल्यासोबत आवडणारी सगळी पुस्तक सोबत घेऊन जाऊ शकत नाही त्याला मर्यादा आहेत. ती जड होतात, जागा उरत नाही बाकीच्या महत्त्वाच्या वस्तू ठेवण्यासाठी,  पण किंडल द्वारे आपण, हवी ती पुस्तक सोबत नेऊ शकतो. 
    • एवढच नाही तर आता आपण इ-पुस्तक ऐकु सुध्दा शकतो. आता ऑडिओ पुस्तकेही उपलब्ध आहेत. 
    • आपण पर्यावरणासाठी खूप बहुमोल असे काम ई-पुस्तक वाचुन करू शकतोय आज. मी जर डिजिटल पुस्तक नसत लिहिलं तर मला न आवडणारी पाने फाडावी आणि फेकावी लागली असती. एक टन पेपर्स तयार करण्यासाठी १२ झाडे लागतात. म्हणजे आपण फेकलेले प्रत्येक पान हे झाडाच्या फांद्यांप्रमाणे आहेत असे लक्षात घेतले तर आपण सगळे मिळून इथे ह्या ठिकाणी एक जंगले उभे करू शकू इतकी झाडें वाचतील. 
    • एवढच नाही तर एकदा मजकूर, पुस्तक डिव्हाईस वर डाउनलोड केली, आपण ऍमेझॉन किव्वा गुगल च्या सर्च इंजिन वर त्या पुस्तकांची नावे लिहू शकतो अगदी, "मृत्युन्जय", सारखे पुस्तकहि डाउनलोड करता येत.  स्मार्ट फोन असेल, टॅब असेल, लॅपटॉप किंवा डेस्कटॉप असेल, आणि आपण ते डिव्हाईस निट चार्ज केलेले जर असतील तर, इलेक्ट्रिसिटी सुद्धा इ -वाचनासाठी लागत नाही. आपण अंधारातही त्या त्या डिव्हाईस वरून वाचू शकतो. 

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    • हे सगळे महत्त्वाचे मुद्दे आहेतच ह्या बरोबरच मी काही दुसऱ्या मला महत्त्वाच्या वाटणाऱ्या मुद्द्यांचाही उहापोह करणार आहे. ते म्हणजे असे कि, वयाच्या आठ वर्षापर्यंतची  मुलं मुलीं जर दोन तास कॉम्पुटर युज करत असतील तर त्यापुढे वयाच्या दहाव्या वयापर्यंत ते सहा तास होतात, आणि कॉमन सेन्स मीडिया असे सांगतो कि अशा मुलांना कॉम्पुटर व्हिजन सिन्ड्रोम, ड्राय आईज, हेडेक, फटिक, नेक, शोल्डर, बॅक पेन, अनहेल्दि पोस्चर, नीअर साईटेडनेस--मायोपिया, असे अनेक त्रास संभवू शकतात. म्हणून, खूप जास्त कॉम्पुटर एक्सपोजर अगदी कमी वयात योग्य नाही. काही प्रमाणात मोठ्या पडद्यावर महत्त्वाचे शिक्षणाशी संबंधित असल्यास काही चित्र फिती आपण दाखवू  शकतो. त्याच बरोबर शारीरिक व्यायामही तेवढेच करून घेतले पाहिजेत. 
    • मध्ये मध्ये ब्रेक घेतले पाहिजेत. स्क्रीन पासून स्वतःला दूर ठेवले पाहिजे. २०-२०-२० नियम  मुलांसाठी आणि प्रत्येकासाठी करायला हवा, प्रत्येक २० मिनिट्स नंतर स्क्रीन पासून डोळे दूर करायला हवेत २० फूट दूरचे २० सेकंदांसाठी पाहावे. हा आहे २०-२०-२० नियम. असे केल्याने खूप साऱ्या डिजिटल अनारोग्यापासून आपण स्वतःला आणि मुलांना दूर ठेऊ शकतो. 
    • जी सगळी मुले कॉम्पुटर वापरतात, शिकतात, त्यांनी, कंपलसरी डोळ्याचे व्यायाम हे केलेच पाहिजेत. तसेच सगळ्यांनी कॉम्पुटर एर्गोनॉमिकस आत्मसात केले पाहिजे. पाठीचा कणा नीट ठेऊन काम करता येईल असे बसले पाहिजे. 
    • आणि अगदी लहान वयात जेव्हा मुलामलींना अनुभवाधिष्टित शिक्षण दिले जाण्याची गरज असते तेव्हा त्यांना पालकांनी आणि शिक्षकांनी  पुस्तकांचा अनुभव जरूर द्यायला हवा.
    • चित्र आणि अक्षर भावना निर्माण करतात, खरी पुस्तके थोड्या जास्त प्रमाणात कॉन्सन्ट्रेशन वाढवतात, खरा फील देतात. त्या पुस्तकांमधील चित्र इत्यादी मुलांच्या कल्पना शक्तीला, विचारशक्तीला आणि भावनांना व्यक्त कसे  करता येत त्याच शिक्षण कमी वयात मिळू शकत. त्या त्या पुस्तकांमधील पात्र, वस्तू जर न्याचरली अनुभवास ह्या वयात देता आली तर खूपच उत्तम. 
    • जाता जाता मी एवढेच म्हणेन कि, दोन्हीही ही बाजू लक्षात घेतल्यास खूप अवघड नाही. भरपूर पुस्तके वाचा, कारण वाचाल तर वाचाल. इ- पुस्तके वाचत असतांना वाचनाची क्षमता कशी वाढवता येईल ह्याकडेही लक्ष असू द्या. दर्जेदार वाचा. माझे बरेचसे क्लाएंट्स मला सांगतात कि इ बुक्स वाचतांना त्यांचं पूर्वी जस कॉन्सन्ट्रेशन व्हायचं तस होत नाही. तस असल्यास ते डिजिटल बुक्स मुळेच आहे कि कशामुळे ते जरूर तपासून घ्यायाला हवे. त्याबरोरच जर आपण ए बुक्स कडून प्रत्यक्ष पुस्तकांकडे आलात तर एकाग्रता वाढेल.  दर वर्षी डोळे तपासणी करून घ्यायाला हवी. 

    गोष्टीवेल्हाळ आपली संस्कृती आहे जिजामातोश्रीं पासून तर विनोबाजी भावे, प्रबोधनकार ठाकरे ह्यांचा सगळ्यांचा वारसा आपल्याला लाभला आहे, ह्या गोष्टी वेल्हाळ संस्कृती चे श्रेय हे वाचन वेल्हाळ संस्कृती मध्ये आहे. आणि आपण सगळे आपल्या मुलांना कोणत्या गोष्टी सांगणार त्यावरून लक्षात येत कि आपलं वाचन किती, काय आपण वाचतो. "म्याकलेलँड" ह्या मानसतज्ञाने असे सांगितले आहे कि त्या त्या संस्कृतीतील व्यक्ती अशा का घडल्या आहेत त्याचे मूळ हे त्यांना कोणत्या गोष्टी लहानपणी  सांगितल्या गेल्या आहेत त्यात दडलेले असते. उगाच शिवाजी महाराज असे निर्माण झालेले नाहीत. त्यामुळे आपण वाचन वाढवूया मग ते "इ-वाचन" असेल किंवा "प्रत्यक्ष पुस्तक वाचन" असेल त्याने आपण पुढील पिढी घडवणार आहोत, पुढील पिढीला गोष्टी सांगायच्या असतील आणि त्यांना त्याद्वारे इतिहाचाची, आपल्या संस्कृतीची, माहिती मिळणार असेल आणि त्यांचे  विचार, भावना, कृती त्यांचे व्यक्तिमत्त्व जर त्यातुन घडणार असेल तर ती त्यांना मार्गदर्शक ठरतील. असे आपण वाचूया. आणि त्यासाठी ग्रंथालये हवीत. 

     

    धन्यवाद आपण मला ह्या सुंदर कार्यक्रमात बोलावलंय माझे विचार मांडण्याची संधी आपण मला दिलीत त्याबद्दल. आणि आपल्या पुढील वाटचाली साठी माझ्या खूप खूप शुभेच्छा.  

     

     

     

     

  • 'Emotional Balance', Event in Collaboration with LLF.


    When we, Me and Priya, invited our friends to write about their experiences and perspectives on Emotional Balance, we had a theme in our mind that is, "NAV DURGA PERSPECTIVES ON EMOTIONAL BALANCE". But we had to change it to DURGA PERSPECTIVES, Since we got an overwhelming response. So Glad to share Various Perspectives here in this blog. 

                  

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

       

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    A BIG THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS EVENT SUCCESSFUL. ENJOY READING AND PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT. 

    ALL THE WRITERS JOINED FROM VARIOUS PLACES IN THE WORLD. 

     


  • EMOTIONAL BALANCE

    For me, achieving Emotional Balance is nothing but reaching our own mindful heart. I believe, that a mindful heart is one who feels 100%, understands 100%, with 100% awareness of being in the present. Once that is achieved, then it becomes easier for a human being to connect the present with the future to step up the ladder of success. 

    Arati Suryawanshi.

    When I was working with an institute before, I attended a meeting, wherein, my colleague and I were given one project to complete. When we started working on the project, we realised that we were having a hard time achieving it. My colleague was looking at it through the lens of performance while I was looking at it through the lens of detail. Hence, since we didn't have a common approaches to a common goal, our process was that much tougher. When we tried to look at it again, we found that, both our thoughts were important, both our intentions were the same as we both wanted our project to be done wonderfully. But our ways were completely different. Both the ways have their own assets to leverage and at the same time they also have their own flaws. Rather than indulging in confrontation, we decided to have a meeting. 

    While thinking about both situations, we found that:

    --Working on a project with more details gave us new insights and ideas towards it. Hence, we might struggle to achieve the project as we wanted it in our own way, in the given time-line.

    --At the same time, when we work with little more leisure and freedom, it is good,  since we work with joy. But again, there is a danger of not being perfect, or leaving important aspects unacknowleged.

    So, how to achieve what we want to achieve? And how to seek the Balance? 

    What did we do in the middle of this Banter; and could we reach to the answer of Balance?

    We both of us , decided to have a meeting,  When both of us were discussing it, we decided that, we needed to answer the question, why we were behaving like this. And we started thinking upon the question; what was affecting our balance? 

    What we brainstormed is the answer of the above question. 

    We reached a few facts: 

    1. We are unable to do it as expected because we have suddenly stopped giving a ear to each other, as if we don't know how to use hearing ability. 

    2. One thing we found that, we were getting hijacked by our own emotions. As if we were stuck with a Fevicol over there. No one wanted to move from that space. 

    3. Another thing we understood is that, we were reacting as if we were tied or we were working from our default modes. 

    4. We also found that we have developed a pattern. And not only this situation but also other situations we want to perform the same way. 

    5.  Our empathy for each other suddenly reduced. 

    6. Our goal shattered, no coordination, synchronization and no motivation to achieve what we supposed to achieve.

    7. Decision making capacities were on hold. They were actually not working that particular time, and even if they worked it was not for common good. 

    8. And we were very far from understanding the consequences about the situation. 

    We have discussed many other things but these were the main points which I feel important to place here. 

    Emotional Balance, or balance of any thing, takes place when two things come together with all their good effects. But it can take place only when we understand the imbalance. When we decided to minimize the flaws and work towards a common purpose, we started seeing the light, hope, various other options, and ultimately SUCCESS. We need all the above things to reach the balance. And we need both the parties to move towards it, have action towards the balance. 

    The answer to reach the emotional balance is to become mindful, look closely towards the situation and thinking from heart. 

    What happence when we apply our mindful heart?

    1. With this 'WISDOM' is added into our final decision.

    2. We develope a differenct perspective for Our final decisions, regarding our relationships, our work, our family situations, our social situations.

    3. Our reaction turns into response.

    4. Our overall Health improves.

    5. Our Emotional well-being improves.

    6. We become smarter than before with our emotions as well as our decisions. 

    7. We become more able to be in our own present moment awareness. 

    8. We are more able to understand our consequences and connect our present with our future.  And step up on the ladder of SUCCESS. 

    Writer:

    Arati Suryawanshi

    Researcher, EQ Consultant,

    C.E.O. Mindful Heart Consultancy

    Fort Mumbai, mindful.heart@yahoo.com

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  • My "ALMOND, APPLE AND AMYGDALA" ... MY RAHU

    As you know dear, I always call you with some different names and you exactly know that I am calling none other than 'YOU'. Today, in this middst of your life where you want to fly above and more, I want to call you with this three "A"s. Hey! My Almond, Apple and Amygdala. Very weird right. But yes, for me it has quite a deep meaning to it. It denotes the place your "KARMBHUMI", the University of California,Davis. With the Almonds and Apples of the land which has different varieties and different people around, you have taken a next step to bring those specific changes in your life that is closely connected to Amygdala. You could break the pattern. Love you for that re.

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    When we had gone to drop my daughter to University of California Davis, in 2014, my daughter Rahi started her Under Grad courses at UCD with a lot of dreams in her eyes. And every year came with a new energy, new information about her 'Self-Discovery', becoming a part of a lovely 'Taiko team' of the UCD, Art director of 'Bakuhatsu Taiko Dan', the another year came with, contesting an election in the UCD, and becoming a 'Senator', being a senator working on various teams and meetings with extraordinary people at 'UCD' and 'Sacremento', then starting her own club,  the idea of Start up hub, where she and her friends were reaching out with many new people and their ideas, and created her own club called as 'Start Up Hub', inviting youngsters to come to the group, attend their workshops to pitch their ideas, connecting them with various agencies to move further in their own path of future. Receiving an special accolade with the Bachlors degree in "International Relations" and that is, "Inspiring Aggie Award", that made the tenure at UCD yet more beautiful, versatile and dynamic for Rahi Vijay Suryawanshi and all of us as her immediate family. 

                                                       

    The skills she was displaying every now and then were amazed us. She performed in Taiko as one of the directors and visited and participated in various show-case programs, one point of time, she sensed that the show case is not happening, she met with all her colleagues and had constant meetings with them and with the ignited fire which contagiously spreaded among all the friends of her Taiko group and they started having their show-cases. Wow! the same kind of leadership qualities she kept showing every now and then. 

    Contesting an election was not an easy decision at all. Especially when she wanted to  start her own group (Party) called, "Be Spoke" and contested the election, giving talks and interviews on UCD TV and Radio. She kept making people proud about her work, and about the teams she was working with. Today she is a completely different person altogether than she was at the beginning at UCD.           

                                                                                                                      A best planner, A decisive person, even in the most difficult time of her life, best at humour, Extremely lively, A Singer, A Dancer, A Taiko player, Relationship expert- whatever happence she always wanted to save her relations with people, Emotinally Intelligent, Bravely struggles for what she wants from her life, not just writing about you because you are my daughter, but I am really proud of you my dear. And needless to say all our blessings are always there with you to continue in your path of future. Constantly managing all 4 GPA and making a position in Deans list are the things regularly happening. How do you manage to do all this together? I feel proud of you my Chika, looking forward to see your new transformed side in application with many International Organizations in future. Love you loads. And Wishing you a graceful, enriching, all good news awaited Birthday!!!

                           


  • "Creating there for you feeling".....

    Hello! Everyone,

    Long back I have written couple of Articles on Parent-Child Relationships and they have published on my blog here. I have a big no. of readers and they are around the globe. I got a call from a well known Media gentleman, and he appreciated my write ups, also he liked the topics and the way I have written about it. He also wanted to share them in media. I thought It will reach to more people and more parents,  many families will be helped. 

    By working as an EQ consultant and Family Psychologist I always wanted to do something applied and solution based. So tried my best. If any of you like my these blogs I am sharing links with you all, Please give your comments. and if ever you like my interview you can give your comment here on this write up. 

    Articles: 

    http://www.mindfulheartconsultancy.com/blog/dear-parents

    http://www.mindfulheartconsultancy.com/blog/---DO-I-HAVE-ANY-PLACE-IN-THE-FAMILY--------

    The interview has been published on following News Papers and Magazine. 

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    1. The link for the BS Business Standards: 

    http://www.business-standard.com/article/pti-stories/creating-there-for-you-feeling-in-kids-matters-psychologist-118031600834_1.html

    2. The link for the India Today: 

    https://www.indiatoday.in/pti-feed/story/creating-there-for-you-feeling-in-kids-matters-psychologist-1191114-2018-03-16

    3. The link for the Deccan Chronicles: 

    https://www.deccanchronicle.com/lifestyle/health-and-wellbeing/160318/creating-there-for-you-feeling-in-kids-improves-self-esteem-psychol.html

    The points covered in the interview are: 

    1. Creating 'There for you feeling' improves self-esteem and overall growth. 

    2. Empathising with children doesn't mean that let them do what they want to do but rather understanding their emotions.

    3. Let us stop burdening children from unrealistic expectations.

    4. LIsten to our kids carefully and nonj-udgementally. 

    5. Be there when they need your support.

    6. Avoid reacting immediately to your child's actions but take a pause and rethink and respond rather than react.

    Feeling Glad that Good newspapers and magazines have taken Cognizance of my work as a Emotional Intelligence Consultant and Family Psychologist. 

    Also thanks to the very Alert journalist. Thank you for reading my blog and understanding the importance of the share and topics which he felt are needed to be reached to many parents and people. 

    Please drop in and give your comments. Waiting for you. 

    Arati Suryawanshi

    Director

    Mindful Heart Consultancy

     

     

     


  • MINDFUL HEART CONSULTANCY WISHES YOU A VERY HAPPY AND EMOTIONALLY  WELLBEING NEW YEAR. 

    We at mindful heart consultancy wishing you happy new year with this unique concept of " Happiness and Emotional Wellbeing Jar."

    My dear friends, let's transform this coming year one moment at a time with Happiness and Emotional Wellbeing. Me with my family and the staff of MIndful Heart Consultancy, wishing you a very happy, properous and emotionally wellbeing year to you. 

    What is happiness and emotional wellbeing jar?

    It is any kind of  Jar you have or you can afford to have for you. It can be any empty jar lying at your place. Any new jar. You can keep this jar at your office as well. It might looks like this. 

    If you are in our list then you might have recieved it from our office already. This is our third year to create a unique gift for all those who are our well-wishers. It's a gift for Diwali and New year together. First year we have created a "Travel Kit." and Second year we have created " Happiness and Emotional Wellbeing Seeds of life."

    Thank you for your appreciation for our unique concepts that motivated us to bring this unique gift to you. This concept first time introduced by Elizabeth Gilbert and later by many people one of them is Mommy Potamus. They have created Happiness Jar. I loved this concept and taken forward it with addition of emotional wellbeing in to it. I feel that with this we are also actually bringing emotional wellbeing towards us. By opening the jar, We understood that our life is amazing and we can select a wonderful moment among all happened from the notes collected in the jar and we begin to think and feel about that event and we actually that time navigating from unnecessary,unwanted, low feeling or thought towards emotionally healthy thought and feeling. That is how we bring emotional wellbeing towards us.

    The basic idea : Every day you add a note to your happiness and emotional wellbeing jar that describes a moment that makes you happy, motivated, and brought smile on your face as,

    1. Your happiest moment of the day.

    2. Something you are grateful for, 

    3. A note from a loved one.

    4. A quote/ lyrics you liked.

    5. LOL moment,

    6. Notes from your kids about special moment spent with them.

    7. Memories worth saving.

    8. Surprise Gifts.

    9. Accomplished goals.

    10. Daily Blessings.

    11. Motivating thought.

    12. A word of Appreciations.

    or any important thing took place in your life brought a simle on your face. 

    Write it down, Put a date on it, and toss it on the Happiness and Emotional Wellbeing Jar. 

    When to Open: " Happiness and Emotional Wellbeing Jar"

    Some people like to open it before the commencement of the New Year, while others prefer to pop it open whenever life gets tough, Challenging, Strenuous and see how many amazing things happened in the whole year. Which gives a new medicine to live life in a new way. Which will give you an idea that how many wonderful events and lovely situations happened in the year. 

    With which our emotions, when at times unnecessary get navigated and can bring new energy and joy towards us. We believe that whenever we feel that we are stuck in some emotion or situation or thought we need to navigate and surprisingly this small Jar helps us in navigation of over intense emotion or unneccessary unhealthy emotion/ thought. You can try it out and let us know. 

    HAPPY NEW YEAR AND HAVE A EMOTINOALLY WELLBEING YEAR !!

     


  • "LE HOTCHPOTCHE" --- The only "Khichadi",  from which we can select things easily--- Non other than "THE MAURITIUS".

    I know it's little confusing, that, in spite of having a picture of a beautiful Mauritius, posting a picture of a beautiful Khichadi, "LE HOTCHPOTCHE". I felt Mauritius the same way. Pretty, Beautiful, Scenic, Pictureque and Balanced Mauritius is 'le hotchpotche' for me and for all those who agree with me. Recently I had visited Mauritius as one of the Delegate & Presenters from a diverse group of researchers around the globe. At Mauritius, which is the world's one of the paradizes, and it is just 40 by 60 KMs,  but it is Multiethnic, Multicultural, Multilingua, and Multicuisine. They say that, when you start your car and till it gets in to it's fourth gear you reach to the boundry of the nation. WOW! we actually experienced it.

    It has it all, and at the same time, as we can easily select all the things we added into the 'Le Hotchpotche', before we finish making and eating it. As Carrots, Beans, Tomatoes, Mungfalis, Corriandar, Green chillies, Cashunuts and so on, Same way we can select the beautiful places to visit in Mauritius as, Beaches, Mountains, Gardens, Valleys, Temples, or just a walk in the huge Malls. Each and every thing is just beautiful.

    After the International conference, which held in one of the biggest mall hotel of Mauritius, "VOILA, THE BAGATELLE",  I was going to come back immediately but since Vijay could manage to come, I could stay some more days in Mauritius. And visited many places. The offbit and common places which I loved to visit are, Pont Natural, and Blue bay, Bagattle Mall, Port louise Market, Catamarine Drive Day & ParaCeiling, Shiva Temple  and Paper Trees. 

    Sharing with you all some pictures here. 

    The International Conference: We were 22 representatives from all over the world. All of us have given presentations on 1st day of our conference and next day most of the participants had one day tour in Mouritius. Since I could stay longer I coun't join the tour, but I heard that, the tour was also The News on National Radio of Mauritius. 

                                           

    Some loved places from Mauritius. 

    The Pont Natural: The nature's marvel. The Bridge is created by the Nature. Here the sea is not like other areas of Mauritius like white sand beaches but here the sea is rough yet beautiful with all rocks and ocean. 

    The Cloudy and Rainy Mauritius:

    "Dhaganchi Chadar." i.e. Cover of Clouds. Through this mega cloud we can easily make out that it is going to start raining soon, the shining sea-shore and tiny sun rays are adding life to the whole atmosphere.

    The Blue Bay: You can't see any other colour but just Blue. Fresh blue. 

    The Paper Tree Garden: Paper Tree garden was amazing. I havn't seen any such trees before. 

    The Huge Rainbow:

    The rainbow was so huge as if the whole Mauritius was covered by it. It started from one mountain and was reaching to the other. 

    The Gunpoint Mountain: It was raining already. 

    People of Mauritius

     My write up cannot be completed without appreciating "People of Mauritius". Thank you Ravindra and Ritu who are in Mauritius for some more years Made our stay fabulous. Had a nice coffee and chocolates at Rajani Ramasuran and Mr. Ramasuran. Thanks to you too because you waited for us though your daughter was reaching to you from another corner of the world.

    The gentleman in a white T-shirt in the above picture is Mr. Bhiwajee, his forefathers came to Mauritius 150 years before. While having a look at Vintage cars parked near the Beach, We were naturally walked there to click some photos.

                                      

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Mr. Bhiwaji became very happy to share his 'Pringle Chips' to us, Felt Indian, with his special offer/पाहुणचार. 

     

                                

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    In My Own Reflection:

    It was our last day of our Mauritius tour. It was a very smooth journey and wonderful visits to beautiful places in Mauritius so far. Each and every moment I tried to remember while seating at the Blue Bay!  And suddenly remembered the " special khichadi", i.e. " LE HOTCHPOTCHE",  I cooked at my friends Ravindra & Ritu's home. What a lovely stay we had their home! Me and Vijay just enjoyed "Khichadi" so much because we couldn't eat together for almost  many 6/7  months, and never ever imagined that, I would be cooking Khichadi in Mauritius for both of us! It was suddenly a very important moment of our life.  'Khichadi', One of the Indian balanced fast food. (Because It has  everything in ot it. Carbs + Proteins + Vegetables ( vitamines) + Ghee (fats), and it can be made Non-Vegan as well.)

    Same as balanced khichadi, Mauritius is, balanced with beauty and nature and mixed with multiple things, yet, we can see them clearly to select to plan our day! Love you Mauritius!! 

     


  •                                            AN EYE OPENER. 

    This experience of my life was a real eye opener. With this I understood,

    what people have to do to get their children educated? 

     

    This is a small story of  two toddlers, one a little older than the other.  Everyday they get ready to go to the castle school in Mussoorie.  Their family live and work in nearby place of the school. They don't have money to buy all the amenities and facilities for their children but they have a facility where they can send their kids to learn.

    That facility is The Castle School. This castle school is above the small mountain, where no vehicle can go, even the two wheelers and bikes will have to be parked at the ground. And all the children have to climb up everyday to the school, even the toddlers.

    It takes 45 minutes to an hour to reach to school. Those of us who live in big districts may send our children to schools which are farther and also may take 1 hour to 2 hours but we have vehicles or the public transport.  Here there is no scope for any transport neither private nor public.

     

    They transport them selves with their heavy school bags.

     

    Before and After school they have to climb up and down for at least 45 mins to an hour. 

    And what did I learn from this?

    They were not complaining about it at all. In fact they were enjoying going to school and coming back home everyday. Their teachers also walk up and walk down everyday.  

    The Castle School, in the below picture behind me on the mountain, inside the trees. 

    When we zoom it is like this. 

    The school looks like a castle. So the school is called as Castle School. When I met these two fellows,

    I had a lot of questions in my mind, as,

    How do they find this everyday trekking experience?

    What do they do for sport in the school?

    How do their exams take place?

    How do they climb up in the rainy season?

    What if they couldn't carry their food?

    and a lot of them. 

    But I could not ask them, because they were getting late for their school. So I kept this for next visit. 

    But what I learnt is that even in the difficult situations we can keep ourselves happy, though we have a lot of complications in our own life, we can still find joy and keep going with it. It gets over.

    Please suggest me a question which I can ask them when I meet them next time. 


  • EXPERIENCING THE EXPERIENCE

     Hi,

    Dear all,
     
    As you know Emotional Intelligence deals with managing emotions. Our emotions are stimulated through internal or external stimuli. Our past incidences get connected, and memories related to it also get stimulated. Thus we experience emotions. Emotions prepare us to mobilise in emergency situations and guide us to get prepared for any situation which will take place in the nearest future.
     
    I want to know whether our emotions and memories get awakened even though external stimulus doesn't contain or produce any fear, horror, guilt, but produce good positive stimuli and still responses we get are sometimes related with other than only positive emotions.

    Thus the hypothesis is; "Emotional response to positive stimulus includes other than positive emotions."
     
    For this you will find some photographs/ Pictures down in the article. Pl. select one photograph.  And you will be writing answers to the questions asked. It will take only 10 to 15 minutes.
    And with this, I would like to invite you to take out some minutes (10 / 15) to visit this journey...................................
    There are some photographs in the attached folder.
    Pl. Pl. observe each photograph properly, Take your time to observe it, and answer my questions. If you feel your answers should not be read by other member’s of the group you can always use my email id. i.e. arati.suryawanshi@gmail.com or mindful.heart@yahoo.in
    Pl. think and write about it.
    Questions...


    1. After observing each photograph what thoughts and feelings are coming to your mind?


    2. After visiting them, do you remember any of the incidences of your life? Can you Pl. share that?


    3. To which context will you relate these photographs?  As  happy, sad, lonely, out of the world, witty, revengeful, or any other. I have observed various responses with many people.


    4. Pl. observe  them again and tell/write me what do you want to do now?


    Pl. experience this awakening, enlightening experience and give chance to me to experience Your  experience. 
     THANK YOU SO SO VERY MUCH
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    Author Arati Suryawanshi, is Ph.D. Scholar in Emotional Intelligence in Human Resource Management at Dr. D.Y. Patil University, Her Ph.D. research is supported with SEI Assessments, i.e. Social Emotional Intelligence Assessments, by 6seconds International, the NGO completely devoted to Emotional Intelligence. Each one of your comment is important for me. Please take this interesting survey and try to give the answers of above asked five questions here in comments or to me on my email id. Thank you in advance. 

     



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